cmd/compile: better check for single live memory

cmd/compile: better check for single live memory

Enhance the one-live-memory-at-a-time check to run during many
more phases of the SSA backend. Also make it work in an interblock
fashion.

Change types.IsMemory to return true for tuples containing a memory type.

Fix trim pass to build the merged phi correctly. Doesn't affect
code but allows the check to pass after trim runs.

Switch the AddTuple* ops to take the memory-containing tuple argument second.

Update #20335

Change-Id: I5b03ef3606b75a9e4f765276bb8b183cdc172b43
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/43495
Run-TryBot: Keith Randall <khr@golang.org>
TryBot-Result: Gobot Gobot <gobot@golang.org>
Reviewed-by: Cherry Zhang <cherryyz@google.com>