runtime: best-effort detection of concurrent misuse of maps

runtime: best-effort detection of concurrent misuse of maps

If reports like #13062 are really concurrent misuse of maps,
we can detect that, at least some of the time, with a cheap check.

There is an extra pair of memory writes for writing to a map,
but to the same cache line as h.count, which is often being modified anyway,
and there is an extra memory read for reading from a map,
but to the same cache line as h.count, which is always being read anyway.
So the check should be basically invisible and may help reduce the
number of "mysterious runtime crash due to map misuse" reports.

Change-Id: I0e71b0d92eaa3b7bef48bf41b0f5ab790092487e
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/17501
Reviewed-by: Keith Randall <khr@golang.org>
Reviewed-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@golang.org>
Reviewed-by: Austin Clements <austin@google.com>