database/sql: avoid deadlock waiting for connections
Previously with db.maxOpen > 0, db.maxOpen+n failed connection attempts
started concurrently could result in a deadlock. DB.conn and
DB.openNewConnection did not trigger the DB.connectionOpener go routine
after a failed connection attempt. This omission could leave go routines
waiting for DB.connectionOpener forever.
In addition the logic to track the state of the pool was inconsistent.
db.numOpen was sometimes incremented optimistically and sometimes not.
This change harmonizes the logic and eliminates the db.pendingOpens
variable, making the logic easier to understand and maintain.