database/sql: add option to use named parameter in query arguments

database/sql: add option to use named parameter in query arguments

Modify the new Context methods to take a name-value driver struct.
This will require more modifications to drivers to use, but will
reduce the overall number of structures that need to be maintained
over time.

Fixes #12381

Change-Id: I30747533ce418a1be5991a0c8767a26e8451adbd
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/30166
Reviewed-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@golang.org>
Run-TryBot: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@golang.org>
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