runtime: preempt dedicated background mark workers for STW

runtime: preempt dedicated background mark workers for STW

Currently, dedicated background mark workers are essentially always
non-preemptible.

This change makes it so that dedicated background mark workers park if
their preemption flag is set and someone is trying to STW, allowing them
to do so.

This change prepares us for allowing a STW to happen (and happen
promptly) during GC marking in a follow-up change.

Updates #19812.

Change-Id: I67fb6085bf0f0aebd18ca500172767818a1f15e3
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/c/go/+/215157
Run-TryBot: Michael Knyszek <mknyszek@google.com>
TryBot-Result: Gobot Gobot <gobot@golang.org>
Reviewed-by: Cherry Zhang <cherryyz@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Austin Clements <austin@google.com>