cmd/compile: better version of check frame offsets against abi

cmd/compile: better version of check frame offsets against abi

improved to run on more architectures.

this is in preparation for turning off calculation of frame offsets
in types.CalcSize.

Replaces https://go-review.googlesource.com/c/go/+/293392 .
Updates #44675.
For #40724.

Change-Id: I40ba496172447cf09b86bc646148859363c11ad9
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/c/go/+/297637
Trust: David Chase <drchase@google.com>
Run-TryBot: David Chase <drchase@google.com>
TryBot-Result: Go Bot <gobot@golang.org>
Reviewed-by: Cherry Zhang <cherryyz@google.com>