net: check /etc/hosts for modifications every 5 seconds, not 5 minutes

net: check /etc/hosts for modifications every 5 seconds, not 5 minutes

But also cache the previous parsed form and don't reread if the
size and modification time are both unchanged from before.

On systems with stable /etc/hosts this should result in more stat calls
but only a single parsing of /etc/hosts.

On systems with variable /etc/hosts files (like some Docker systems)
this should result in quicker adoption of changes.

Fixes #13340.

Change-Id: Iba93b204be73d6d903cd17c58038a4fcfd0952b9
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/18258
Reviewed-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@golang.org>